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The real thing

April 15, 2013
 - Tim Hardman

A lot of people say that people don't just buy things, they buy connection. For this reason, it's important to remember that people choose to do business with other people, not just corporations. The most important parts of this choice are the feelings and beliefs that customers use to make purchases. They're basically taking a chance by trusting and thinking that the salesperson is real and will help them through the buying process.

Being honest and interested are not only good qualities, they are also required. These traits help salespeople connect with customers on a deeper level, turning simple transactions into meaningful exchanges. The best discoveries happen when curiosity and sincerity work together. Iterative relationship development makes sure that wants are always understood, categorised, and met. Over the last 15 years of selling Niche services, I have noticed that every time you talk to a customer, you have a chance to learn more about what makes them decide what they want and why.

A key part of a good sales plan is for the salesperson to genuinely care about the customer. It's not enough to just know what the customer wants; you need to connect on what's important to both of you. Real conversations like these are important for building trust, which is the basis of any good business relationship. Customers are more likely to buy when they feel like they are known and valued as people, not just as buyers.

One thing that stays the same during the sales process is uncertainty. This lack of certainty is what makes a strong relationship possible. Things won't always go as planned, or decisions won't always have the effect that was meant. But making a bad choice doesn't always mean failing; sometimes it's a chance to improvise and make changes. For customers to trust you as a guide, you must be ready to help them through unplanned events and work with them to find good options. Again, the qualification and deep knowledge of the customer are very important in figuring out the right path.

Making choices in the sales process is like Game Theory, which is more like the game of poker than chess. Sales is a lot like poker in that you must deal with incomplete information, make informed guesses, and take calculated risks. This information that is being kept secret is a major cause. You can't see everything, and no one knows what will happen in the future, but when you're honest with someone, they'll believe you, and that makes decisions and the journey into the unknown a shared risk. Customers bet based on what they think they know and can believe. Being honest about possible risks and how to handle them can have a big effect on their choices.

When a sale doesn't go through, two important things that keep building your trustworthiness are very important. Taking the attitude of "trying to prove it isn't your fault" is just a missed chance to learn. Were you ready, did you know what was important, did you meet the requirements, did you have choices ready, and so on? It's also false to think that your success was only due to your natural skills. For a seller to learn from their success, they need to figure out why they were successful and what factors led to their success. When you do a 360-degree look at your organisation, you see how everyone is working together and what they're contributing. Being honest with your company is just as important as it is with your customers, so taking the time to learn makes you more trustworthy. One of the most important parts of making sales is knowing when to bring in the right person at the right time for the right reason.

It's an important part of the sales process to deal with complaints. Whether it's unreasonable requests, terms that don't make sense, or a failure to work together, being honest is important in all these situations. There is a fine line between persuasion, bargaining, and making the smart choice to walk away. If you are seen as real, the threat to leave can change the dynamics of a discussion, forcing the other person to rethink their position and possibly agree to better terms or get back to work with you.

You can't say enough about how powerful sincerity is in sales. It's the key ingredient that makes simple transactions into relationships that last. I remember when I thought about going into sales but wasn't sure because I had heard stories about slick-talking people who could sell anything. A family friend who is a great sales boss told me about his favourite salesperson who always found new leads, qualified them, and networked. This helped her close a lot of deals. She stood out not only because she knew a lot about products or had good business sense, but also because she was always true to herself. She made sure to connect with her clients on a personal level every time she talked to them, whether it was a quick call to check in or a big pitch. She remembered little things like a client's favourite sports team and the names of their children and brought them up in conversation, showing that her interactions with them were more than just business. She earned their trust, which made her the best leader, but not for the sales process. For the buying process.

When salespeople are genuine, they don't just make sales; they build trust and loyalty that go beyond goods and services, giving customers value that they really value and rarely forget. Being authentic is important for building a great sales career, and it's not just about making sales. It's also about building relationships based on trust and honest communication. In a time when customers are smarter than ever and where alternatives are easy to find thanks to AI-powered insights, the real link might be the best bet a salesperson can make.

About the author

Tim Hardman
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Dr Tim Hardman is Managing Director of Niche Science & Technology Ltd., a bespoke services CRO based in the UK, and a keen and occasional commentator on science, business and the process of drug development. He also serves occasionally as acting Scientific Director for the healthcare agency Phase II International, specialising in medical strategy and communication.

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